Black Love Revolution

After a long day on my feet all I want to do is soak in a tub. I come home to find candles lit, and a warm drawn bath with filled with rose petals. Well you can guess what happens next…

Downtown Toronto suffered a blow this past weekend. In the heart of the city, at Toronto’s well known tourist attraction, the Eaton Centre, a gunman opened fire within the mall’s food court. 7 were injured and 1 person died as a result of the shooters misdeeds.

Living in the city, knowing Toronto is great place to live, I can’t help but be angry with the NEGATIVE cloud this 1 individual has cast on upon us. Imagine, 1 individual responsible for taking a life, injuring others, sparking fear within the community as well as those around the world who regard this city as one of the safest spots to visit and live.

Dee and I went down to the mall this afternoon to pay respects to the victims and their families. Taking some tape, Dee mounted a bouquet of flowers and some paper on one of the locked doors of the entrance to the mall and wrote words of hope “God bless you all, All of Toronto stands with you & Loves you”.

This is our community, our city and citizens. If we don’t stand up for it who will? If we don’t speak out against injustices, who will? If we don’t let those living amongst us, our neighbours, know that we are there for them in time of need who will?

By evening, there was a candle light vigil across the street from the mall. People came out to show their support. They brought flowers, teddy bears and even signed the paper Dee put up. There is hope knowing that we do have decent people living amongst us who will not turn a blind eye to the injustices that occur within our city, and are ready to lend support. For this I am thankful.

Sue

Had a great brunch with Dee and some friends. Took some time to go hear some MUSIC afterwards at the Toronto Centre for the Arts. After a loooong week it was relaxing to hear some sweet pieces as a full orchestra played some of our favs. Sweet seats, met the conductor and spent a classy afternoon with my boo. Beats staying home and lazin around on a Sunday afternoon.

Let’s face it, life is busy with meetings, deadlines, family obligations and when you’re in a relationship you HAVE TO take time to spend with each other and not let other things consume you.

I work during the evenings and Dee showed up to whisk me away for a dinner break. Living in the heart of a concrete jungle doesn’t always provide the magical setting/view/ambience for a romantic outdoor dinner, however my boo knows how to make it happen.

See, I love water (being by the beach, lake, a pond) and nature (bird, bees, bushes, trees) and Dee found a great little spot.

Our very own oasis. Nobody around to disturb us while we enjoy a quick bite.

Tasty veggie burger, wasn’t bad (especially since Dee had onion rings inside the burger)

Yesterday I posed a question:

How do you apologize when your partner doesn’t want to hear “I’m sorry”?

                               photo courtesy of madamenoire.com

Responses:

@DatinWhileBlack: You must give them time to sort thru their feelings my advice put in writing & respect that time and their healing process

@BlackLoveForum: 1) learn their apology language (see 5 love languages website). 2) give them time to heal 3) don’t give up

Speaking from personal experience, if Dee or I have a made a mistake, we each give the other some space so we can both approach the situation with a clear head and without anger. Trust me it helps. It can be challenging though to put aside those emotions and remove yourself. Every situation varies greatly so finding the right fit in your approach to a solution is vital.

Special thanks to the aforementioned contributors.

Sue